Growing up, you are always taught to respect your elders.
Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, Cousins older than you by 3 years, the nice old lady with the old candy and smelled like Moth balls…
Didn’t matter. If they were older than you, you were to show them the UTMOST of respect.
Ever notice that these people never quite showed YOU any respect?
You might not have noticed it when you were younger, but as you made your way into Adulthood, and eagerly anticipated all the responsibilities power that came with being an adult, there was something missing…
Not just from the younger kids (because lets face it, they have NO home training)
but from Adults.
Especially Older Adults (Senior Citizens and such)
Earlier today, I was in class with 1 half of twelvin; She got the attendance sheet for me since we came to class late.
I’m sorry, “asked” isn’t the correct term.
I was looking for something more like “reached across twelvin’s body to get the sheet as she asked for it at the same time.”
As Twelvin tried to defend herself she handed me the sheet and I was getting ready to sign as the teacher was wrapping it up. Madea then inSISted that the sheet be given to her so she could sign it.
I would like to take this time to mention that no “peer” would have tried something like that; We respect each other, and know how to wait our turns.
Madea? not so much.
Instead of starting a situation in front of our teacher (and going against home training) we yielded and handed her the sheet, keeping a close eye to make sure the sheet didn’t disappear to the other side of the classroom.
As Twelvin and I were leaving we both mentioned that if “Madea” was in fact our age, we wouldn’t have reacted so passively.
Is it just us? I’m afraid not.
This evening as I was stalking people looking for funny Facebook Statuses, I came across this:
R.R. – understands you’re suppose to respect old people but I’m sorry some of them deserve to be cursed the hell out…
Naturally, I was intrigued, so I decided to investigate…
the 2 gentleman who responded both agreed with the Original Poster (OP).
the next friend then warned of being physically reprimanded for insolence smacked for being rude.
As I read this status discussion, it made me wonder “Do older people lack respect ?”
I hit the interwebs, and asked a couple good friends about this.
One person felt that
“the elders do, possibly because they think that they know everything due to their advanced age.
wisdom and knowledge are frequently confused
I never looked at it like that; confusing Wisdom and Knowledge
Another person felt that
” Generations don’t respect each other.. the old don’t respect the young and the young don’t respect the old. They (older generation) don’t understand the new generation and simply write us off as deviants.. not respecting or trying to understand us”
This seems to be a common theme that I’ve personally noticed; just because we’re younger, they automatically write us off as a waste of space.
Another Reader felt that
“Since older people had to earn it themselves, they just don’t give it out… I see that a lot especially in churches”
This was a REALLY good point. Growing up in church, I’ve personally noticed that the fancier the hat, the less respect they have for the young.
but WHY ?
I thought about maybe interviewing some older people about this; but… I’m afraid I’d have to end the interview early.
What are your thoughts? do you think older people have respect?
and if not, why not?
Let’s talk about it.