Love Abuse ?

February 19, 2009

What is love? 

She says it’s a second hand emotion.

He says it’s a strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties. 

I hear people throw it around like it’s the new catch phrase for the year month. Then I hear some people say it as consolation to someone they just abused

but, what is Love? better yet,  why is it so constantly abused?

This morning I wake up to Facebook to discover I was tagged to a note. 

At first I thought it was one of these, but then I discover there was a little more substance to this note. One of my beloved fish (no, I don’t show favoritism… except for the Ace of hearts) tagged me in a note where she was letting off steam, and partially confused about her situation.  

Her significant other (of about 1.5 years) who she thought was “the one”  through an interesting turn of events decided to take another woman out on Valentine’s Day. 

I have another friend who at first was having a nice evening with a gentleman… which awkwardly ends, and less than a week later the same man is with another woman.

I have yet ANOTHER friend who was dating a guy who turned out to be engaged and getting married within the month.

Now, i’m not here to put their business out in the e-streets, but I have to ask; why?

why are men boys mistreating girls? why the games? 

Personally, as a former boy on my journey maturing into a man, I’ve made some of my own mistakes. Honestly, I know why I did what I did; most of it was out of selfishness, and self-preservation. I owe a few women apologies, but not all of them. I’d get into why, but this isn’t about me 😉 

Some guys become men overnight, some need a few heartbreaks/aches to learn, and some never grow up and decide to settle down; they are the ones who insist on keeping the game alive and well.  This only makes it okay for future young boys to grow up and keep it going. We as “Men” and “Kings” need to raise our future princes on the finer points of catering to the queens of the world. 

I read so many things where guys are trying to take the stand to treat women like queens to stop the cycle of hate and distrust.  this street goes both ways; women need to start treating “men” (not boys) like kings 

*dodges a flying pot* 

Female reader- ” But Blogmaster, what about the women who treat boys like kings and still end up feeling like a strumpet? ”

That’s the problem right their ma’am; you are treating a boy like a king. Never give a boy the keys to a castle with gold and expensively rare treasures; they’ll only make a mess of things.


Facebook 25

February 8, 2009

It’s been all over facebook for over a week now.

I’ve read a couple articles about this.

It’s time I address this new blast from the past. It seems like the new thing to do is to post 25 random facts about yourself and then tag 25 of your friends (1 of which has to be whoever tagged you to do this task). 

I’m not sure what to make of this new phenomenon honestly. I will admit that the random things people put are VERY entertaining. 

I gave this quite a bit of thought. When I saw the first couple lists pop up, I thought maybe I would give it a go. However, as more and more people started doing it, the more and more I decided.

I have personally decided that I will NOT be posting 25 random facts about myself. I have decided to take this stand because I don’t want to become another statistic. Also, I refuse to pick 25 people; Not to mention I’m obligated to tag everyone that’s already tagged me. (6 as of Sunday 9:30pm)

I will admit that these facts are entertaining at the very least. 

People admitting to loving certain smells (crayons, gasoline, heaters ??? ) 

People who are shopaholics (a few of those) 

People with multiple parents (literally, and figuratively) 

People even admitting to their deepest fears

People hiding cryptic (and sometimes not so cryptic) messages for specific people. (those are the most fun)

I sometimes wonder how much time people put into these lists. I’d imagine some people take a few minutes, some a few days… I actually heard read that one person took an entire WEEK to compile their list.


Why are people so willing to provide the Internet with anywhere from the frivolously random, to the absolute soul-bearing? 

It’s not the anonymity, because usually most of your friends and schoolmates can read these.

Is it E-therapy? 

A fad?

Just for a laugh? Only time will tell. 

What about the people who DIDN’T get tagged by their friends? not gonna lie, a couple of my friends didn’t tag me in their lists, and for some reason, for 4 and 3/4 seconds (jump to about 2:40 into the video), I was jealous. I’m not sure though, it’s like I was left out of their life. One person told me they didn’t tag me because of all the mutual friends they tagged, I’d read it eventually (I’m looking at you Ms. Fish) 

What about you? do you think it’s a fad?  Have you done your 25 yet? feel free to post one or two of yours here. Just not all 25, please.  


** Seriously, I didn’t nor will I be making a 25 things to know about me, sorry **